Life with TWO

Now that I have almost a month under my belt being a mom of two I thought I would share a little of what life looks like around here at the moment.  This past month has been a crazy whirlwind to say the least.  There are a lot of things that I expected like sleep deprivation and crazy hormones, but quite a few unexpected obstacles as well.  I find myself wondering why I ever thought having one kid was hard.  I am sure I will look back on this time and laugh, but for now it is survival mode one day at a time. Luckily, my recovery has been a breeze this time.  I am so thankful for this special, hectic time.

Sleep with two.  When Olivia was born I thought I was so tired.  She ate every two hours and didn't sleep through the night until around 4 months. I used to get her in the bed with me after Chad left for work and she would nurse and we would both sleep until noon some days...yes noon.  And I thought that was hard? Luckily, Olivia sleeps great through the night now.  But now I have two babies and one of them isn't cool with laying in the bed until lunch time, can you guess which one?  Mornings when the babe decides he needs to eat every hour on the hour through the night I still have to get up and entertain a two year old all day.  This brings on a whole new meaning to being sleep deprived.  There isn't enough coffee in the world some days.

Eating with two.  I swear there is a sensor in my butt and when it hits a chair to sit down and enjoy a meal my son wakes up and is starving to death himself.  Even though he just ate 10 minutes before.  Add on bribing a toddler to eat her green beans and stop pushing her chair back from the table and you get a little picture of how meal time goes around here.  I end up giving up on warm food and feeding him and of course Olivia thinks since Mommy got up that she can too.  Hey, maybe I will lose those pregnancy pounds from starvation.

Nursing with two.  Breast feeding this time has come even more naturally than last time.  Still have the soreness, but not nearly as intense.  I decided not to pump at all this time since I already have a surplus of milk and created a huge oversupply with Olivia.  I will pump when I need to be away, if anyone ever decides they need to come keep my two kids ;).  Thinking back to nursing Olivia, it was such a special bonging time, no interruptions, just special one on one time together.  It is a bit different than that this go around.  Trying to help him stay latched through my fire hose of a let down while a toddler is climbing on my legs and almost kicking Jack in the head.  I am screaming at Olivia to stop screaming in Jack's ear while she gives him 43 kisses as he yanks his head back and almost takes my nipple with it.  I am pretty much a sweaty mess by the end of a nursing session.  I have to admit I was a little smug about my breastfeeding experience with Olivia.  It was so easy and I am still proud we made it to a year.  So now I am eating my humble pie.  To all of you breast feeding moms of multiples out there, my hat is off to you!  I will definitely try to make it to a year, but I am not making any promises and I won't beat myself up over it if I don't make it.  I am still a huge breast feeding advocate if that is what works best for you ;)

Outings with two.  I have come to terms with the fact that it takes me at least two hours to get my little three ring circus presentable and ready to leave the house.  I cannot say enough how much baby wearing has helped make going anywhere in public easier.  I am obsessed with the solly baby wrap.  It is super soft and Jack is asleep within minutes of getting him all snuggled in.  I was a little intimidated with the wrap at first, but the tutorial on their site is great and it I so easy to put on.  The best part is I can tie it on at home and it's so lightweight (feels like a soft t shirt scarf) that I can wear it while I drive.  One less step to getting everyone out of the car is huge!  I put him right in it out of the car so no need to lug the heavy, bulky car seat in the store.  I can put Olivia in the front of the buggy and still have room for groceries in the back.  I also recommend packing your diaper bag as light as possible.  With the first I pretty much had her whole nursery in there and this time I only have the essentials so I am not carrying a 10 pound bag on top of a newborn and trying to hold a toddler's hand. 

Staying at home with two.  I remember sometimes feeling lonely when it was just Olivia and me, before she could talk to me.  Now, there is not a moment during the day that someone is not touching me or talking to me or needing me for something.  It is truly a selfless time in my life and to be totally honest it is hard some days.  I absolutely love my family more than anything, but being a stay at home mom with two small children is a tough job.  There's more laundry, dust on the floor and toys to pick up than can ever be tended to in one day.  But there are also more newborn snuggles and smiles and little arms wrapped around my neck than I could ever deserve.  For every moment in the day that is trying there are 5 more that melt my heart.  I lay in bed and memories of the day tug at my heart.  Did I talk to harshly too Olivia about something or did I miss out on too many snuggles with Jack while tending to Olivia.  At the end of the day I just want my family to know how much I love them and although I am far from perfect I try so hard to be the best I can for them. 

Life with two.  When Chad is home in the evenings and on weekends, we divide and conquer.  He is such a big help and I probably don't tell him enough how I couldn't make it right now without him.  He tends to Olivia and I take care of Jack.  We try to get Olivia out of the house and to do something fun while I have the help.  We both try to do as much as we can around the house while the other plays with the kids.  We each have a kid to bathe and get ready for bed and after they are asleep we are both ready to pass out by 9 pm every night.  Jack is still in our room for a few more weeks and still wakes up every 2-3 hours to eat.  Things are slowly starting to normalize and I am sure the more Jack sleeps and lets us sleep the easier things will get.  Although things are busy at home, we really enjoy the weekends just the four of us. All of us laying in the living room floor crowded around Jack, watching Olivia love on him and seeing happiness in all three of their eyes is pretty much as good as it gets for me.  I am loving this new, crazy life with two and want to savor every sweet and sour moment with my little family :)

Photography by my very talented friend Heather Kemp Photography

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